Mental Health Awareness

This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart and soul. May is Mental Health Awareness month, which fits me perfectly. My Master’s degree is in School Counseling and mental health is something I am truly passionate about; I believe that everyone should speak with a therapist/counselor at some point {yes, even if nothing is ‘wrong’} to gain a better sense of self. I could speak about it forever, but I will hop down from my soap box to discuss self care. If you want to gather more information about mental health awareness or counseling, please comment below or message me — I would be happy to talk privately to anyone interested!

Something I learned from therapy, and understanding mental health better, is that self care is critical to all of us. I cannot be the best mother, wife, friend, human, if I do not take care of myself. For me, as you know, self care comes under the guise of reading, yoga, writing, meditating, organizing, and cooking, to name a few. Recently, my self care really is seen through my reading; I’ve been enjoying so many new books and actually just listened to my first audio book this past week. I’ll review the book more thoroughly in a later post — book club is tomorrow and I wouldn’t want to give anything away — but the whole audio book experience was astounding! I was able to finish laundry, dishes, food prep… all while enjoying a book! Only took me two days to finish it too, listening during the kids’ nap time and in the evenings. This means that I may be able to continue reading, even during my especially busy weeks! I am floored! Now I want to know about all the amazing audio books out there — which audio books do you recommend?

Even though my reading game is strong lately, I’ve let go of meditating and yoga, which I really want to get back into, along with running. I used to run a lot before kids and I would like to get back into it; I am still searching for a decently priced double jogging stroller — wish me luck with that! Lately, I’ve been doing a little calming, self awareness routine with Bird before bed, because she’s started to have meltdowns when we leave the room. We play some zen music and we practice a breathing meditation {only about a minute long since she’s two years old}. I think she gets so excited about her day that it takes her longer to settle into sleep mode, despite her exhaustion. It’s been working well this past week, and it’s encouraging me to do more with her during the day, and maybe it will help the tantrums and meltdowns that come — also, it will help to calm mama down, which will make quite the difference, I think! My goal this week is to meditate more with Bird throughout the day — Lulu too — and to do some yoga in the morning. The other day in her crib, I put on the zen music, which she associates with yoga, and she did a modified tree pose… on her own! We haven’t practiced yoga together since Utah — I was stunned — and then immediately felt guilty that I stopped practicing with her. To rectify that situation, my plan is to start practicing and I’ll put out an extra mat, where she can practice what she wants. Although I love a long practice, I’ll probably start with just a ten or fifteen minute routine first; very exciting!

Today, I also tended to my self care by finally tending to my garden. Still a minimalist container garden this year — I don’t have the time or energy for a full vegetable garden — I chose my favorite herbs, including: lavender, basil, thyme, oregano, parsley, spearmint, and chives. Heading to the farmer’s market in the morning to see if I can find sweet mint and rosemary. The only veggies we are planting this year are two grape tomato plants — I bought two because last year Bird ate all of our cherry tomatoes and I am positive Lulu will enjoy them just as much — and a jalapeño plant. Sometimes I get overzealous with my gardening and plant a ton of herbs and veggies only to waste them and that makes me sad. I think I planted the perfect amount of herbs to cook with and also to dry for cooking, tea, and infusing water. I am excited for the herb garden, yoga, and getting back into a healthy self care routine.

How are you going to care for yourself this month? This week? Today? Take care and enjoy!

Book Review: March & April

  • The Mommy Group by Elizabeth Isadora Gold {3 stars}
  • The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel {4 stars}
  • The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman {4 stars}
  • The Winter Sea by Susanna Kearsley {*5 stars}

Well, we reached a milestone — the first 5 star book of 2019! It was the most recent book I read and it was un-be-lievable! The more I read of the genre, the more I enjoy historical fiction, and this novel in particular was captivating. I will admit that I was hesitant to start it, because it is lengthy and I worried it would not catch my attention and would be a long struggle to the finish line. However, thankfully, it was a breeze and one that I am still reluctant to leave {by starting another book}. It is apparently the first in a series and now I added Slains #2: The Firebird to my TBR list. You can read more on my Goodreads, but The Winter Sea ebbs and flows between the 1700s and present day at Slains Castle in Scotland. The protagonist is an author creating a new character based off of her family tree, but as the story progresses, details that she ‘creates’ for her novel seem to be more fact than fiction. If this sounds interesting at all to you – pick up this book, today! You will not regret it!

It feels a little lack luster to discuss the other three books, now that I’ve gushed about The Winter Sea, but they were all good reads as well. I started off March with The Mommy Group, by Elizabeth Isadora Gold for a book club with my mama tribe. I was a little put-off by most of the mamas being seemingly forced into c-sections; not sure if this was due to location and population {takes place in NYC and my guess is the amount of people they work with in the hospitals there may translate to less time to honor birth plans to wait for the babies to come in their own time}. If you’re about to be a new mom and you read this, do not think that all labors are like theirs! That being said, it was a cute story and fun reading the anecdotes of new mamas, especially since my mama tribe and I then reminisced about our experiences during our book club.

Thankfully, I also finally finished The Whole Brain Child, which was a terrific read and science-based. This was one of the reasons it took the time it did; I wanted to be sure that I absorbed the information because it really resonated with me as a mother. Hubby and I use the techniques found in this book and it has been helping with Bird’s tantrums — yay, we reached the age of two! We found the information within this book help us to understand where the kids are coming from and understanding that while our frustration is understandable, it will not help in diffusing the situation. I especially love that they have a cheat-sheet in the back of the book for the refrigerator; thank you for the quick reference page! Excellent read, which I suggest to any new or veteran parent!

The remaining book on the list, The Graveyard Book, by Neil Gaiman, was enthralling. This is the book I read on my four hour flight to Colorado and all I can say is — what an imagination by Neil Gaiman — absolutely original and fun supernatural story.

What is on my upcoming TBR list? As I recently mentioned in a post, I would like to read Pride and Prejudice at some point this month; I cannot remember the last time I re-read it, which means it is time! I have one last book from my bestie, Chris, and that is Hunting Prince Dracula by Karrie Maniscalco. I started it yesterday during the kids’ nap time and quickly closed my own eyes after several chapters, but what I read was interesting. I’ll keep you posted!

Also, for my next book club, I need to read Save Me the Plums: My Gourmet Memoir by Ruth Reichl. I am excited for this book, but I am way down on the waiting list to borrow it from the library, so I am considering listening to an audio book instead. Now, I am very traditional when reading, meaning I really just read physical books; I believe I’ve only read several virtual books and I have never listened to an audio book. However, I have friends and other bibliophile friends who rave about audio books. Any suggestions? What audio book apps do you recommend? Are there any other books you recommend I listen to rather than physically read?

Travel: Red Rocks

Colorado. Our visit there was short, but it was beautiful and absolutely peaceful. I realized this was my first major trip since Lulu was born last year and my first flight away from both him and Bird. As a mama, this was a bit nerve-racking, but I was able to be present in my journey with the hubby and our friends and enjoy the experience.

To travel is to live.

– Hans Christian Anderson

Let me start off by saying that I was able to finish an entire book on the flight to Denver, which was quite the accomplishment. That level of self-care really gave a terrific start to the weekend. Hubby and I landed in Denver on a Thursday evening and went for dinner at the Brutal Poodle, which is a ‘hard rock inspired tavern that pays homage to man’s best friend’. The food and drinks at this bar were unbelievable and we taste-tested appetizers, split two entrees, and sampled the cocktails, plus dessert. The dessert we had was Eskimo Bros Nitro Ice Cream — the bananas foster flavor — and it was the most amazing ice cream eaten to date! Hubby and I researched and it’s only available in Denver currently, so if you’re ever in the area, look them up to try it, too!

Red Rocks Amphitheater (from a distance)

The rest of our friends arrived late night, so we had a lackadaisical morning on Friday. We stayed at this amazing VRBO cabin in Morrison, Colorado, which was located on a ranch, only about twenty minutes from Red Rocks Amphitheater. Around mid morning, we all geared up and went for a small hike at Mount Falcon, which we quickly realized was adjacent to Red Rocks itself! This is a view from our trail; we hiked part of the Mount Falcon Castle Trail Loop and enjoyed the fresh air, the beautiful wilderness and the exercise!

That night, we enjoyed a gorgeous meal at the Buckhorn Exchange, which is the oldest restaurant in Denver, established in 1893! This is a steak house, with plenty to look at {taxidermy}, gads of history, and a plethora of exotic meats. Come hungry, because the portion sizes definitely do not disappoint! I enjoyed the quail, and no one left hungry; this was a neat place to come for the experience and the food.

Ms. Pickles (left) and Tito (right)

The next morning, we slept in — that’s right, folks, I slept in until 8:30 am and it was glorious! We lounged about the cabin, dipped into the hot tub, sat in front of the fire, and Hubby and I took a walk around the VRBO property. The binder the owners left advised that there were horses on the ranch and you could meet them up close and personal; these sweet horses, Ms. Pickles and Tito, were kind to let us bother their grazing.

Hubby, our friends, and me at Red Rocks Amphitheater

Before we knew it, we were off to the big event: a concert at Red Rocks! We enjoyed all the music, although Hubby was especially excited to see Stick Figure and Pepper. Stick Figure was the headliner, and I especially love that they bring their dog, Cocoa with them and she joins the band on stage! She’s an Australian Shepherd, and beautiful; she reminded me of our Aussie, Kayah, because she kept laying down with her toy directly behind the lead singer, and he would nudge into her when he backed up from the mic. Kayah loves to do that as well and often trips us as she keeps tabs on the family. The venue itself was stunning; it is neat to see from the outside, but when you’re within the massive rocks, it feels like you’re in your own fortress. Well, you, and about 9,000 of your closest friends. The concert went into the early morning, where we crashed for several hours before heading back to the airport.

Although our stay was brief, the scenery, food, and activities were exciting, and delicious; definitely a place to check out further in the future! Also, my friend was right — this short trip with just Hubby and I was a nice reprieve, although I am grateful to be back home with the babies now. Feeling lucky and appreciative for the travel opportunities, as well as the amazing family and friends who support us and watch our babies {thank you, Abuela}!

See you next week for a book review post!