A month later…

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Well, clearly still working on that balance component, but not apologizing, because that’s life! Today, while listening to the radio — which I do every morning — the DJs were discussing new year resolutions and asking how people were doing with theirs, since it’s about halfway through the year. This year, I didn’t make an actual resolution list, but every year my list is pretty consistent, generally relating to finding a better balance and feeling healthier: cook/eat healthier food, exercise more frequently, practice yoga, practice meditation, read more often, and recently, to be more present with the babes.

When 2019 started, I was practicing yoga in Utah {which was amazing}, meditating regularly, was cooking more regularly/healthier meals, and was definitely focused on Bird and Lulu. I definitely hit some patches since then where I wasn’t as steadfast with meeting these goals, but I am in the process of revamping my intentions for the remainder of the year. Last post, I just started a new morning routine, which helped me feel more focused and calm at the start of the day — critical for me. Last week was more of a struggle since I was on vacation, visiting my family in New England, which was amazing, but I paused on my morning routine. Plus, I ate like I was a teenager — overeating, snacking on potato chips and waaaaay too much chocolate — my body is currently punishing me by producing a major zit; I guess if I am going to act like a teenager, I get to look like one too. Haha — just being real over here!

Picture on the right: Senior Chief Petty Officer Shannon Kent

However, the weeks before vacation, I continued the morning routine and also ran a 10k — in memory of my friend who was killed back in January. What an honor it was to run and the medal has her name on it; never have I felt more proud to receive a race medal. It currently hangs front and center on my display. She was a badass, thoughtful, and hilarious mama, neighbor, and friend — always pushing her limits and motivating others to do the same. Before I became pregnant with Lulu, we talked about completing a sprint triathlon {I may have mentioned the sprint option because I’m sure she would have completed a full triathlon without fail}; my goal is to get in shape to complete one in her honor by the end of 2020.

This morning I woke up early and finished a short one mile jog in the neighborhood to get myself back on track. I was greeted with this beautiful sunrise and an almost full moon {was two days ago} peeking out from behind the clouds. I was still lethargic when I arrived back at the house, but I didn’t meditate or practice yoga, which I desperately needed. Tomorrow is a new day and I will do better!

As for my other yearly intentions, I’ve certainly kept up reading, feel better about the focus I have when with the babies, and go through spurts with cooking healthier for the family. I am getting back on track with the latter and am seriously considering starting the Whole 30 again. Hubby and I did it several years ago and absolutely loved it! Tonight, I cooked up a beautiful salmon salad inspired by a Pinterest post: shout out to Cafe Delights‘ blog and marinade!

I really enjoyed that the marinade for the salmon was the dressing as well {you split it in half for the two purposes, you don’t use the marinade as the dressing} because it made my life simpler! Such a quick and easy meal and so healthy. For future posts, you can look forward to my book reviews from May, June, and July next week, then a post about our home organization in the next two weeks! It feels like it’s been forever, but we are so close now!

Stay tuned and let me know: how are you doing on your resolutions and/or intentions for 2019?!

Duality of Parenthood

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To all you mamas out there… congratulations! You’re doing terrific! Why do I say this? Simply because I know you are even if I do not know you – first, you’re reading this in the little spare time you have – and because oftentimes we, as mothers (parents), internalize guilt and overthink the choices we make in our children’s lives. This week the duality of motherhood has been in the forefront of my mind.

I am a stay-at-home mama to two children under the age of two. I love having the kids so close in age; however, currently having a 22 month and a 7.5 month old, we are getting into a tricky phase. The baby — we call him Lulucito — needs more attention now that he’s somewhat mobile — I think he will figure out crawling quicker than I expect, but he cannot yet move to keep up and interact fully with his sister. The toddler, we call her Bird, is now realizing that Lulucito needs more attention and that this requires sharing — something that is a work in progress.

If you’re like me, I am always on the lookout to learn something new and being a parent is no exception. I continuously read magazines, articles, and books on parenting, as my husband and I try to figure out what style we like best for our children. I recently found the following quote on social media posted by Raised Good (blog and website), which is a page that really mirrors how I would like to parent.

This quote especially resonates with me, because Bird’s personality is really presenting itself lately – she’s daring, extremely active, and supremely independent. She wants to explore, experience, and devour all that she sees! I absolutely adore this about her and I love that I get a front row seat to watch her enthusiasm for life unfold as she grows.
I let my kids explore life, nature, food, etc. because I think it is vitally important to their growth, physically, mentally, and emotionally. However, sometimes we need to run errands, leave the grocery store, or share with others — here is where the duality comes into play.

I struggle some days to make decisions: do my children have too much freedom or am I holding them back from their potential? Am I scheduling too many activities into their days or should I get them more involved? Am I coddling my children or pushing them to grow too quickly? These, and more, are the daily thoughts I have and I am working to find what comes naturally.

My overall goal is to be a calm parent: to listen to my children and their needs, not worry about the unwashed dishes and clothes, and focus on their growth and development. My goal for this week is much more humble: I want to remind myself that I am human and I encourage you all to do the same. Impatience and voice raising can sometimes win over, so my goal is to continue my self care routine with meditation and yoga. These practices help me to breathe in times where I feel overwhelmed and frustrated; this breath sometimes gives me the time I need to access the situation logically and to be proactive, rather than reactive in situations.

These are my goals for this week, what are yours? I am always searching for additional resources … please share anything that works for you and your family! Look forward to hearing from you!

Light Behind the Dark Days

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There are darknesses in life and there are lights, and you are one of those lights, the light of all lights.

– Bram Stoker

This quote was on my mind quite often this week. Unfortunately, we had some losses in our lives this week, one a friend and neighbor who was killed on deployment, way too soon in her young life. Although these individuals are physically gone, their spirits live on in our memories and actions. I continue to think about the light they brought into this world, with their kindness, creativity, and their laughter. This light is what helps me cope: I know that by sharing light with others I can truly honor the individuals we lost. I feel inspired by my neighbor and all she did in her life – she was constantly creating, working hard, yet having fun with her family and friends, and always reaching for more. I feel more motivated than ever to accomplish some goals I have held on to for years.

This week, however, is about coping. I took time to meditate, to explore my thoughts and feelings, really taking stock of where I am at this moment in my life. I find that being in Utah, away from home, allows me the benefit of focusing on the simplicity of life and on what I hold most important. Not sure why, but at home, I feel like I am constantly busy, not taking the time to breathe and meditate on the truly important things: family, friends, love, and happiness. Since I do not have all the distractions here that home brings, I am focusing on self care, my husband, and my children, and taking the time to notice the simple things that make me happy. My intention is to bring this self-awareness home with me, help us to simplify life when back on the east coast, and enjoy the moments that make life so beautiful.

This week’s happiness and cathartic activities included making Valentine’s Day cards with the kids; yes, I know it’s a commercialized holiday, but one thing that especially hit home this week is that it is always a good time to share your love for others.

‘Life Journals’

In addition, I made time to update the kids’ scrapbooks. In fact, they are more like ‘life journals’, with pictures, stickers, and many memories {first steps, words, as well as trips taken and people visited}! I am very fortunate; my mom loves to take pictures and I have many albums loaded with pictures from my childhood. I decided to combine my love of writing with my obsession of taking pictures of the babies to create these journals.

I also found it absolutely necessary to go to the two yoga classes I signed up for this week. Yoga really helps me to center myself, as well as allowing me to delve into my thoughts, feelings, and acknowledging how that affects my demeanor and physicality. If you’re ever near Draper, Utah, please check out Cradle Your Soul! It’s a smaller studio, which I love, and has different classes for individuals of all levels. I especially appreciate the more intimate setting; I practiced for about 10 years, but am significantly out of practice. The smaller class sizes allow me to focus on where I am physically and emotionally. I am passionate about yoga because I love that it is all about the individual; it’s not a competition between you and someone else, only you against yourself.

The days have been difficult knowing that these individuals in our lives are gone, but I am committed to focusing on the light. Remembering the amazing qualities of these individuals inspires me to be more true to myself, which is my intention for the foreseeable future. Stay safe and see you next week!