On the road again…

Posted on by JC Rizk

Hard to believe, but we are approaching the end of our adventure here in Utah. I can tell you that it won our hearts over, but more on that in a later post. This post is much more functional, as we start to pack up our belongings. Having a two year-old and a nine month-old, preparing for 36 hour drive across the country, organization is crucial. Here I am going to share my packing plans, as well as items to keep two young babes entertained and comfortable for the long days ahead.

First and foremost, it is time to pack. Sometimes it is the bane of my existence, but I am in organization mode, so I started off collecting all the clothes that we will not wear on our way to the east coast. We are making a pit-stop in Florida to visit the abuelos, so I plan to pack one bag for the family for the 3 days of hotels and traveling, as well as a separate bag for Florida. Putting aside a handful of outfits for the remainder of our days here, I started packing the majority of our clothes.

Something I do at home, and really found beneficial when packing, is the KonMari method of folding clothes. I was able to fold and pack a gigantic pile of clothes into our suitcase, then at the end I included accessories that we will not need for this last week.

By the way, the pile of clothes on the bed actually doubled in size before I was able to start folding and packing clothes! Fortunately, we are driving and do not have to worry about luggage weight because this suitcase is heavy! There are three layers of folded clothes in the big section and little accessories, belts, and socks in the thin section. Today, I also packed our paper items {kids’ scrapbooks, art supplies, tax paperwork, etc.} and some of their toys into the big bin and into the grey toy bin pictured above. More toys can be fit into the grey bin, but that can wait until early next week.

Here are the other items groups of items to pack:

  • Electronics: husband’s work computer, PS4, our family computer, cables, FireStick, etc.
  • Food items: canned goods, spices, other pantry items {I resigned myself to not cooking for the next three days, other than what we have in the refrigerator already – yay!} Baby snacks are already in a reusable grocery bag, but this needs to go in the car with us!
  • Frozen/Refrigerated items {this will wait until Tuesday night after we fill our large cooler with ice}: mostly just venison and condiments this trip!
  • Ski gear: hubby and I hope to get one more ski day in on Tuesday before we leave — fingers crossed!
  • Cribs: we will disassemble the day before we leave; Bird gets to sleep in a bunk bed for a night and Lulu will sleep in our pack and play, since we need that for the hotels anyway.
  • Miscellaneous: books, the last bit of toys, dog food and water bowls, the last bit of clothes we are wearing for the next several days.

I already started to pack what I could of the above items. Now it is time to prepare the kids’ activities for the car.

Pictured here are some of the toddler’s favorites on the ride to Utah. My favorite activity book is the scratch and sketch ‘Furry Friends’, as Bird will sometimes chew on the writing implement you give her, especially if she is frustrated with still being in the car. Having her chew on a wood stylus is highly preferable to the magic ink pen in this case {it, thankfully, has not splintered or shown any signs of doing so, otherwise that would change things considerably}. We also always have a plethora of books on hand. I am hiding a few of Bird’s favorite books, so that they seem new again when we get in the car next week.

In addition to the above activities, our friends also gave Bird some shape and color flashcards, which she really enjoys — this will make the perfect quiet activity for the car. We made whole punches in the top corner of the card and connected it with a metal ring, creating a little booklet of sorts, which I think she will really like! Also, other friends gave her a mini etch-a-sketch, which she loves! This is also packed into her unicorn backpack for the ride. For our 9 month old, who is such a chill baby {thank you, universe!} I packed a musical toucan toy, some books {that are chew proof} and teething toys. Of course, add to all of this many, many snacks and we should be good!

Our travel days are going to be about 9-10 hour driving days {meaning that does not account for stops}, so we try to leave early, after breakfast for parents, kids, and dogs. We stop once midday, which is usually the longest so Bird can run around {she likes to help Papa walk the dogs}, and I can feed Lulu. Then we all have lunch together, Bird walks the dogs with Papa again, we change what diapers need to be changed, and get back in the car. Late afternoon, we make a quick pit-stop for diaper changes, dog walk, and Lulu’s bottle, then finish off the drive with dinner once we get to the hotel. It’s quite the experience, but we were very fortunate on the ride from Maryland to Utah; the kids were absolute champs and were pretty low maintenance! We are very, very grateful and keeping our fingers crossed that this Utah to Florida trip is no different.

Preparation mode continues on my end: any suggestions on activities for 2 year old and 9 month old children in the car? Any snack suggestions?

Also, would you consider or have you completed a long road trip with the family? Where did you go and how did it go? Look forward to hearing from you all!

Duality of Parenthood

Posted on by JC Rizk

To all you mamas out there… congratulations! You’re doing terrific! Why do I say this? Simply because I know you are even if I do not know you – first, you’re reading this in the little spare time you have – and because oftentimes we, as mothers (parents), internalize guilt and overthink the choices we make in our children’s lives. This week the duality of motherhood has been in the forefront of my mind.

I am a stay-at-home mama to two children under the age of two. I love having the kids so close in age; however, currently having a 22 month and a 7.5 month old, we are getting into a tricky phase. The baby — we call him Lulucito — needs more attention now that he’s somewhat mobile — I think he will figure out crawling quicker than I expect, but he cannot yet move to keep up and interact fully with his sister. The toddler, we call her Bird, is now realizing that Lulucito needs more attention and that this requires sharing — something that is a work in progress.

If you’re like me, I am always on the lookout to learn something new and being a parent is no exception. I continuously read magazines, articles, and books on parenting, as my husband and I try to figure out what style we like best for our children. I recently found the following quote on social media posted by Raised Good (blog and website), which is a page that really mirrors how I would like to parent.

This quote especially resonates with me, because Bird’s personality is really presenting itself lately – she’s daring, extremely active, and supremely independent. She wants to explore, experience, and devour all that she sees! I absolutely adore this about her and I love that I get a front row seat to watch her enthusiasm for life unfold as she grows.
I let my kids explore life, nature, food, etc. because I think it is vitally important to their growth, physically, mentally, and emotionally. However, sometimes we need to run errands, leave the grocery store, or share with others — here is where the duality comes into play.

I struggle some days to make decisions: do my children have too much freedom or am I holding them back from their potential? Am I scheduling too many activities into their days or should I get them more involved? Am I coddling my children or pushing them to grow too quickly? These, and more, are the daily thoughts I have and I am working to find what comes naturally.

My overall goal is to be a calm parent: to listen to my children and their needs, not worry about the unwashed dishes and clothes, and focus on their growth and development. My goal for this week is much more humble: I want to remind myself that I am human and I encourage you all to do the same. Impatience and voice raising can sometimes win over, so my goal is to continue my self care routine with meditation and yoga. These practices help me to breathe in times where I feel overwhelmed and frustrated; this breath sometimes gives me the time I need to access the situation logically and to be proactive, rather than reactive in situations.

These are my goals for this week, what are yours? I am always searching for additional resources … please share anything that works for you and your family! Look forward to hearing from you!